Leaders, What do you say in the first 30 seconds of Any Conversation?

John Maxwell, the guru of leadership, made a profound statement about influencing people that I believe correlates amazingly into ministry.

In the first 30 seconds of your conversation, say something affirming about them.  Be specific.

In ministry we understand that life is difficult and our people need to be encouraged.  One of our roles is to be that encouragement.  We should constantly be encouraging our core team, not in some vague nonchalant way, but in real, tangible examples of encouragement.

We need to be looking for ways to affirm them in what they are doing to help them see that we are wanting the best for them.  We want them to succeed as much as we want the ministry to succeed.  This isn’t simply a 9-5 factory where you punch in the clock.

We want our leaders feeling apart of something greater and it is on us to give that feedback and grow relationships.

These 30 seconds are crucial.

If your conversation is with someone you don’t frequently encounter:

1.  You instantly gain credibility and trust.

2.  You build your relationship with them for future collaboration or need.  They will be more willing to work with you in the future.

3.  You added value to their life.  They will most likely be thankful for that, and potentially return for more in the future.

If your conversation is with someone on your team:

1.  You continue to gain credibility and trust.

2.  You are counting to build your relationship with them for future collaboration or need.  They will be more willing to work with you in the future because they know you want the best for them.

3.  You added value to their life.  They will most likely be thankful for that, and will continue to be a tremendous asset on your team.

8 thoughts on “Leaders, What do you say in the first 30 seconds of Any Conversation?

    • 25 Ways To Win With People. I heard it when he was in a dialogue with Bill Hybels and Ken Blanchard at the Global Leadership Summit at Willow Creek. The Kosovo Protestant Evangelical Church is a connection of many churches all over the country of Kosovo and this past weekend chrsitian leaders and pastors from all one rthe country came together and we watched a few sessions with these guys. Always encouraging and motivating to hear from influencers like these men! ps loren, still waiting for that vision of “here” 🙂

  • This is such a powerful principle. I don’t always make the 30 second mark but try and say something affirming within the conversation. I have seen many people feel valued and appreciated because of applying this principle. Great reminder.

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