The 10 Rules of Social Networking Etiquette to Avoid being Socially Awkward.

Many of you know the value of certain leadership qualities: vision, charisma, passion, character, etc.

Where does social IQ fall?  Does it even make the list?  Does it matter if your leader is socially inept or is that an essential quality that you must possess?

 

The answer: A RESOUNDING YES!

Theodore Roosevelt said,

“The most important single ingredient in the formula of success is knowing how to get along with people.”

I think the intent of his comment was your ability to interact, engage, and relate to people on a broad level.

If you don’t know how to talk to some one or to “get along with someone” good luck leading them.

Here are the 10 rules of social networking etiquette to avoid being socially incompetent and embarrassing your business or brand and ultimately lead well.

1. Strike up conversations that aren’t about you, your business…please, just once.  Nobody likes to feel like they are being advertised to.

2. Ask Questions, don’t just give answers.

3. Smile.  No. Not that creepy smile, but a genuine smile denoting interest.

4. Avoid Being a Fake.

5.  Stop fidgeting and looking to every place except the person your talking to.

6. Learn to be silent and just Listen.

7. Don’t be the only one laughing at your joke. Huh. Huuh huh…yeah, it wasn’t funny.  Either wait for the right moment or stop telling them.  Probably the latter.

8. Avoid stories about your past relationships.  Small talk isn’t the place for your therapy session.

9. Occasionally share your expertise at no extra charge and without strings attached. Don’t you hate those people that say, “great post….check out mine at …”!  suckers.

10. Do NOT Leave without saying goodbye…don’t be that guy.

Hope you can take these 10 tips and begin building your network and relationships.

What etiquette rules would you add to this list that I have not included?

10 thoughts on “The 10 Rules of Social Networking Etiquette to Avoid being Socially Awkward.

  • for some reason, it won’t LET me capitalize a letter. Strange. so I’ll just have to type like a teenage girl texting.
    I’ve found it’s helpful to have a few questions that I ask people regularly. What do you do? How long have you been doing it? How did you get into that? What do you do when you’re not [working, volunteering, etc.]?
    A few questions like that to keep in my back pocket have helped me keep the converstaion going and also focused on the other person.

      • Loren,
        again, man glad it worked out, and glad the illustration was of a teenage girl. Maybe its just they are more efficient 🙂

    • ha! man! I know—I am no wiz at coding so I have no clue….. but I did notice it showed up in the final post so I decided to forget about it for now 🙂 the problem they were having before was it showed up in ONLY UPPERCASE 🙂 check out dans reply. Anyways, man Loren good words dude. It is incredibly helpful to have those go to questions that allows you to knock off 4 or 5 of those etiquette tips.

  • Good tips! (I’m having the same issue as dan with the cap locks)

    Anyway, I really like the part about listening. I think far too few people know how to listen.

    • fixed! and great point :0) something we can learn at all levels of relationships: friendships, marriages, business colleagues…the list goes on! Great place to build your social iq…..or not reveal your inabilities by simply listening 🙂 a true win-win. I forget which US president said it, but the quote is something like better to be thought a fool and say nothing, than open your mouth and remove all doubt!

  • totally AGREE WITH YOU ABOUT IQ, ITS AN IMPORTANT ASPECT OF LEADING OTHERS. i REALLY ENJOYED THESE POINTS. i LEARNED AND ADAPTED FROM John MAXWELL TO PUT A 10 ABOVE EVERYONE HEAD AND TO BELIEVE THE BEST OF THEM.

    great POST!!!

    PS. for SOME REASON IT WOULD NOT LET ME TAKE THE CAP LOCKS OFF.

    • Dan, first off…..any tips to get cap locks off of it? You’re the brilliant blogger that has been doing this for a while
      I thought you just wanted to shout your point to make it really clear 🙂 Is there a difference between valuing people and being socially aware?

      • No idea. After rereading it it looks really bad. Just so you know It was all Cap when I posted the comment. Now it’s not letting me do upper cases. I DOn’t know what’s going on. This is very frustrating. But still will keep coming back because of the good content.

        I’m a writer not a tech man.

        • thanks dan 🙂 In the final product it looks like it comes out okay, but I can imagine it is frustrating….as Loren said, feels like I am typing like a teenage girl!

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